What is your Gift this Holiday?

Holidays are here once again. How nice? It is time to get together with family and friends and to bond, connect and celebrate achievements over the past one year. We all look forward to it. We should definitely thank God for the blessings we have received.

While we are thus fortunate, let us not forget that there are those who are not so blessed. In our own communities, we have neighbors, friends, colleagues and fellow human beings that are alone, needy and wondering “what did I do wrong”? They did nothing wrong. They are just unfortunate. They could be you and life is such that you could find yourself in their situation. This is what motivates me to help.

Let us tap into our humanity and reach out to them in whatever little way we can. While gifts are often appreciated, we at WISO believe that a kind gesture goes a long way. Let these fellow human beings know that you and I know about them and their welfare, and that we care and love them for who they are and for humanity’s sake. Hug them, share kind words, extend love and share gifts if you can. Parents, it is time to reconnect with estranged children, relatives and friends.

Some of us are estranged from our children for various reasons. Some of us are estranged from our spouses or parents because they betrayed us. Remember that we are all human and therefore bound to err. To some, a child who married from a different race is not welcome. To others, a gay child is not worthy of love.  The list is long. We should all remember that we are human and loved by God equally. Forgiveness is the highest virtue and blessed is he or she who is willing to extend it to others.

Surprise your neighbor by doing an unexpected act of kindness. Share gifts, a card or a simple greeting. While it takes two to tango, it only takes one to change a situation, a moment, a village and the world. In this blog therefore, I appeal to everyone and anyone that happens to read it to share acts of kindness far and wide.  I especially urge you to hug the next person you meet during this holiday season and tell them happy holidays. Put a smile on a child’s, woman’s or man’s face. Do not forget the elderly and the homeless. Pass by their house, chat and make them smile. That smile, which is worth a thousand words, is the best gift you can ever give anyone.

As the president of WISO, I want to extend our gratitude to all that have supported our efforts in various forms. While we acknowledge our task isn’t easy given the statistics of those who live in abusive situations, we believe that one act of kindness to change any one situation is worth it. Denying the existence of abuse is apathy. Taking it on to save one life at a time is worth it. With enough resources, many will be reached.  We hope you can continue to support us. If you have change that you have been putting aside, we could use it to take another girl to school, or help a woman move out of an abusive situation.

Send all gifts to WISO, 229 Orton Drive, Greenville NC 27858. You can also visit us at www.wiso2011.org. As we wish you happy holidays act in such a way to minimize acts of abuse and family violence. God created us all equals and would love it very much if we treated each other as God’s creations. Jesus, Muhammad, Gandhi Mother Theresa all cared about the unfortunate in our communities. Let us emulate them. Happy holidays to everyone!

If Only I Had Known?

Have you ever come to a point where you exclaimed: If only I had known! Perhaps, may be or maybe not. If you were to come to this point, would you change your reaction?  Most of us do hope so. But do we? This is a challenge blog for you to try to act right the first time around.

Sometimes, we may truly be confused, ignorance or unaware of inhumane behavior in our communities. But at other times, we may well be aware of abusive situations and choose not to do anything. Whatever the decision we make, we should all be boggled by our conscience. The decisions we make can make a huge difference. We may save a life, prevent harm or even lose it altogether.

Take for instance this recent story in the news that seems to bewilder most of us. For those who may not have heard about it, let me briefly restate the incident. On November 15th, 2012, a miscarrying 31 year old Indian woman died in a Galway hospital, Ireland while seeking an abortion.  Savita Halappanavar died after doctors denied her an abortion due to Ireland laws that are on the verge of banning abortions totally.  In an attempt to save the fetus that was not even likely to survive, the mother’s life was lost. Instead, the doctors who claim to have been fearful of the laws of the land left her with an infection leading to her death.  Learn more at http://www.cnn.com/2012/.

Unfortunately, the obvious decision to save life wasn’t any more obvious. Decisions like these are made even more difficult when religious matters are involved. In the process, two lives were lost. Is this abuse? Who is to blame here? I think many individuals share in the blame. Everyone in the hospital knew that it was an injustice to endanger the mother's life. And yet, they let things slide. Do you really need a God to tell you to save a life?

 I admit that this is probably an extreme example. However, there are numerous forms of abuse that we experience in our communities all the time which we say nothing to when we should.  Some of us have probably suspected that a woman, a parent, the elderly or a neighbor is being abused. And yet, all we do is watch and wait and hope that it all would somehow stop. Sometimes in the process of waiting, someone has lost a life, dignity, childhood or ended up living with serious psychological trauma. 

 In my blog today, I want to appeal to all of you who are witnessing abuse in one form or another to do something about it. Refer those individuals in need of help to counseling, authorities or at least tell someone who is likely to do something about it. Meanwhile, if you have any experience where you witnessed an abuse and found yourself conflicted and unable to do anything, kindly share with us on our blog. You never, know, someone may just learn something about it.

 As usual, remember at WISO, we do not judge the victims. We offer everyone an opportunity to share and be listened to. We hope to educate each other. We ask that we do this discretely.  Remember to visit our website at www.wiso2011.org, like our Facebook and share with our community. We appreciate your support. Remember, it takes just one to make a change. You have the power, use it. Do what is right. Follow your conscience and be blessed. Remember, no religion in the world supports abuse. Do not be misled.

Are you disgusted by Sexual Trafficking? Show your disgust by wearing a White Ribbon!

Do you know that the pornography industry in our modern society is responsible for the increase in sex trafficking? Pornography use is strongly linked to the purchase of sex, and therefore, to sex trafficking. This is why WISO is anti-human trafficking and therefore "against pornography"? Wear a Ribbon in commemoration of October 28-November 4^th as the wear a ribbon against porn week.

Often when we talk about sex trafficking, people think of foreign girls and women who are brought from other countries for sexual exploitation. While that is true in most cases, sex trafficking is an on-going activity even in our own neighborhood. Have you ever wondered about what happens to girls or young women who go missing and may not turn up for any reason at all? The odds are they are lured and sometimes kidnapped into sex-trafficking business. Sex trafficking is a serious form of abuse because it is perpetuated by powerful and rich men.  

We at WISO join everyone who feels, cares, worries and is disturbed by sex-trafficking abuse in our society to condemn the practice. We join the White Ribbon against Pornography (WRAP) Campaign to express disgust against sex trafficking and call for policies to be instituted to control and protect the rights of those who are sex-trafficked. 

WRAP began with one woman, Norma Norris, in Butler, PA in 1987 after she heard a sermon against pornography delivered by the pastor of her Catholic church. She lived in a community like ours where some may think that people don’t care about the hardcore porn being sold in our community. Norris believed she had to show that she cared. So, she gave herself the challenge to inspire her community and to send out the message: WE CARE! WE COUNT! The plan that Norma thought was too simple, inexpensive, and to catch the imagination of anyone soon became inspirational. Her idea of a simple white ribbon became a symbol of decency. As her movement caught momentum, a sense of morality became part of the discourse in her community. Consequently a call to the need for women to be respected was renewed. These are the basic human rights we should all stand for. Her movement culminated into the eviction and bulldozing of a porn bookstore. Today, millions of citizens as well as organizations around the country work daily to make WRAP a successful annual campaign.

In spite of this achievement, this fight is far from over. We have to keep reminding everyone that girls and women are human beings who should be respected and treated as humans. They are not slaves to be used and abused for sexual or other emotional or economic needs. The community has a larger role in ensuring that this mission is achieved. Talk to your children and friend about the role of porn in promoting sex trafficking. When you buy a porn movie or watch a porn movie, you encourage the abuse of women as sex objects.

We as a society have the obligation to make the right choices. We especially have the right to protect our young girls and women from sexual exploitation. As long as one promotes a form of enslavement, he or she is a slave owner, and a dehumanized being whose humanity has virtually vanished. We should reclaim our humanity and sense of worth and should treat everyone we encounter the same way. Doesn’t the golden rule tell us to ‘do unto others as we would like them to do unto us” This is a fundamental teaching of Jesus, Muhammad, the Buddha, Confucius, and all wise teachers who have always cared about treating others humanely.
Wear a ribbon to show that you prefer decency and that you are disgusted by continuous actions of human and sex trafficking. Together, we will make an impact, however small it may seem.

Why it is important to Vote!!

Hello everyone. I know that some of us are still making up our minds about whether we should vote at all and who we should vote for. The first question we should ask ourselves is: Why should we vote?  Yes, it is important that we vote. Any good and responsible citizen must participate in the electoral process. It is one way to demonstrate that you care about your government, your people and your culture. It is a time that we all come together as a society, community, government to elect leaders that will represent our welfare. Decisions we make by casting a vote affect our lives. If we don’t vote, we let the decisions of others to shape our own lives. Be a responsible citizen, we know you care about your community, your people, your friends and yourself. Make sure you vote in the coming elections.  

But, who should we vote for? This is the six million dollar question. There are many qualities that go into a good leader; character, likeability, ability to be productive, caring and empathetic of his/her community’s situation. Most importantly, a good leader should be one who is willing to acknowledge realities in his and her communities without dismissing any social group as irrelevant. Such a leader cares for the welfare of all and is willing and able to fight for his/her community.

On the other hand, we should watch out for leaders who say one thing and act differently. We should watch out for flip floppers, or those who are insensitive to the needs of those they purport to represent and protect. Well, if you are reading this blog and support our course, you probably know that our values of inclusiveness and compassion will steer us toward a leader who cares for the homeless, abused women, children, and even men. We will lean towards a leader who cares for minority communities including those who have special needs or may be described in society as “abnormal”. A true leader, we believe will stand with those who are vulnerable. He will try to fix situations of those who are struggling in society. He / she will work towards ensuring that jobs are available for all to alleviate poverty in their communities and ensure that all access healthcare as a basic human rights.

As elections take place in your various communities, all over the world, pose and consider seriously what kind of future you want to see your children inherit. Do you want to see a world where those who have specialized needs are ignored as non-entities? Do you want to see a world where women are unable to access healthcare thus increasing chances of all types of cancer and unplanned pregnancies because they could not access initial screenings and birth control methods? Do you want to see a future where your daughters are raped and no one apprehends assaulters because rape is as some potential leaders have claimed “not legitimate?” The latest claim that should send a chill to every women and man’s spine is the claims that “a life /pregnancy resulting from rape is god’s will.  The choice is yours.

As the representative of a non-profit organization, I work at being non-partisan. In our organization we care about everyone, and work for everyone. However, we care about certain basic issues. We care about the human worth of all therefore we care about human rights, women’s rights, homeless rights, all human rights. We support the welfare of women, and the rights of girls to education, and to health care. We care about freedom to worship and hope that some do not impose their beliefs on others. We care about ensuring that elderly members of our community are not left to abuse.

 Although the pundits may remind us again and again that elections are about the economy and jobs, we need to be smart in connecting the dots. Economy is connected to all these other issues. We need jobs to pay for healthcare. We need jobs to pay for education and so on. Well, think about it? We have health conditions that necessitate that we get jobs to pay for our bills. They are all connected. Do these potential leaders make the connections for us?  

Well, there are many issues to consider and so we must be smart in the decisions we make. One very important decision we should make this October and November month is to go out and vote.  Our world needs peace, social justice and morality. We need to cultivate care compassion and love for all irrespective of their lifestyle, race, color, conditions. Make the right choice during this election process. The world is counting on you.

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WISO Stops Abuse of Women: Because My Culture Says So!

WISO Stops Abuse of Women: Because My Culture Says So!: How many times have you heard people say, “I do it because it is my culture”? Many times, I assume. They say it all the time. You know, ...

Because My Culture Says So!

How many times have you heard people say, “I do it because it is my culture”? Many times, I assume. They say it all the time. You know, culture is great!! I love culture as well, because culture defines who we are. It gives us our identity. Culture connects us to our families, friends, and a history that is worth being proud of. Culture should make us proud as a people. It should make us feel human and feel wanted and needed. It should make us feel valued.

But wait, what about when culture is harmful? Should we embrace it?  Think about it?

In some communities, it is a cultural thing to discipline wives by whipping. Some women have been killed this way. In others, it is okay to perform female genital cuttings, - a process that involves  the trimming off of the clitoris, labia minora and labia majora and  sometimes sewing completely a woman's vagina leaving a tiny match stick size hole for natural fluids. This is done in order to protect her virginity and chastity. Some girls have died through such processes and many live with health issues that may include; pain, inflammation, swelling, urine retention, urinary tract infection, meatal obstruction and urinary strictures, keloids, dermoid cysts, introital and vaginal stenosis, neuromas, dysmenorrhea, hematocolpos, dyspareunia, infertility, obstructed labor during childbirth, hemorrhage, sepsis, infection, shock, and even death.[i]

In other cultures, it is alright to kill a baby girl after she is born just because the family is fearful of her dishonoring them when she grows up. In such societies, infanticide is alright as it is believed that girls are generally impulsive and likely to be promiscuous that the only way to prevent this is kill them at birth. In such cultures killing a woman who commits fornication, adultery or gets pregnant out of wedlock is common.  In some cultures, such a woman is buried alive or stoned to death.

In other cultures the birth of twins is an omen. Such children are to be thrown away in the forest and left for dead. Oh wait, did I mention that in other cultures it is alright to eat fellow human beings and of course wonderful to sacrifice humans? I could go on and on and on… Did I mention that rape is an acceptable cultural practice in some communities? This will be discussed in details in my next blog topic. I think the point is made!

While culture has positive benefits to the individual, it has its negative side as well. Culture can justify abusive behavior.

When culture undermines any ones welfare, especially health, it ought to be questioned. We should all do what we can to claim our human rights, and God’s creations. Our human worth is much more that what culture can offer. As rational beings, we should all claim our agency as individuals who can think for ourselves and make decisions for ourselves.  While we all love our families, communities, and our cultures, we should consider seriously what they expose us to. When they ask us to succumb to practices that harm us, we ought to stand up against them. Any culture that is proud of itself must protect the health and rights and general welfare of all its members.

Sometimes, this is not easy for some of us, though. That is why everyone needs a friend to turn to when situations like these happen. Be your sister’s and brother’s keeper. Be there for the unfortunate and for those who have no voice in society and probably don’t know how to resist abusive practices in their families, communities and societies in general. Say no to any form of abuse, Say yes to human rights.

Join us at WISO as we stand for the rights of all. We condemn any form of abuse whether cultural sanction or not. We stand for the welfare of the abused. We work to help empower them to say no to abuse. Join us and share your story. It can be inspirational to others. Support us in other ways to help change one life at a time.  Do not forget to visit our website at wiso2011.org and like us on facebook, tweeter, and share our concerns to all your friends. We can all make a change. Lives of millions depend on it. Remember, just one life at a time.

Peace!

WISO President
August 22, 2012

 

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[i] Turner, Dianne. 2007. “Female Genital Cutting: Implications for Nurses” AWHONN accessed at http://nwh.awhonn.org

The Greatest Gift: Help Send a Girl to School!

Hello friends. First of all, I would like to express my gratitude for the support you give us for this worthy course we engage in. It means a lot to know that there are many of us out there who care for those who are underprivileged in society.

 I am writing this time with an appeal for one of the abused survivor, who has requested that her name remains anonymous. Because we believe in maintaining the integrity of our clients, I will call her Hope. Hope is in need of a lot of help. As you all know, our WISO organization seeks all ways to help girls, women, and even boys who are in distress. Hope finds herself in this situation.

 Hope was born in a rural community in Kenya in 1992. She has struggled to survive as a girl in a community that does not value women. While her desire has always been to go to school, her family's desire has been the contrary. As a girl, all she is expected to do is grow up quickly and get married to a rich old man who can give them a handsome dowry.

Hope has tried all she can to go to school and all indication show that she is a bright girl who can do very well if given an opportunity. She completed her primary education in 1997 where she excelled and hoped to join a good high school. Her father disagreed with her mother after he neglected the family and was unwilling to take her to high school. He had wished to marry her off after her primary school to obtain dowry from her marriage. This led to her parents’ separation which worsened her situation.

She was taken up by an African Independent Church rescue center where she got a sponsorship to join a local high school. Due to tuition difficulties, she was in and out of school. She was lucky to have been allowed to sit for her final exams in her final years. This kindness enabled her to earn good grades in spite of her difficulties. She scored good grades to secure a chance in a public university.

Hope has had a tough life and she has worked manual jobs to pay her tuition in order to get her diploma certificates. In 2010, she was admitted to a public University but she had to defer her studies due to lack of tuition. Her father refused to pay for her college fees because he does not see value girl education. He is not alone.  Most parents from her community marry their daughters off at an early age. Her father’s interest was to marry her off so her brother could use the dowry to marry his own wife.

Hope needs your help. She hopes that with little help, she can continue with her education at the university in August 2012. She needs about $800 for her tuition and upkeep annually. In order to transcend her abusive situation, she has to be made independent. We at WISO find this at the forefront of our mission. While there are so many girls out there that may be in her situation, we seek to help one individual at a time.

We hope you can join us at WISO to fundraise to send this girl to school. Even a $1 - $5 or what you can afford will go a long way to helping Hope. Visit our website at wiso2011.org to donate or you can also contact us at wiso2011@gmail.com if you have further inquiries.

Those who donate are promised to receive updates on Hope's welfare and you will also be invited for recognition at WISO events. The best of it all is the priceless feeling you get for helping someone in need. This is what we at WISO live for. In spite of abuse in our societies, there are great people out there who truly care and wish to support those who live with abuse. Be one of them. God’s blessings will be abundant as a result. As always, it’s always good to do good. Remember, knowledge is power, but action is powerful.

President WISO

Equal Opportunity is about human nature

What about equal opportunity do people not understand? You would imagine that because we are all human, we would be caring to all as we care about ourselves. Yes, this is what is called "the golden rule - Doing unto others as we would have them do unto us". This the rule about moral behavior that Jesus taught about, yes, Muhammad, Buddha, Gandhi, and all the important leaders we know today seem to be saying the same thing. As humans we should care for each other and try to help out those who are unfortunate. Yes, even Socrates, the philosopher, had his students thinking about this fundamental virtue and as he reminded them all the time, this is the best virtue. Why, it is central to what it means to be human.

Unfortunately, we often see humanity acting on the contrary. This evening I just saw pictures of massacre of innocent people including children in Syria. my heart sank, especially as I watched the children die while other cried ceaselessly. Why do human behave like animals? Why? Why do we delight in hurting others? Why do we not want others to have the same opportunity to services - health, education, environment, leadership roles, legal representation and yes,even eat the same food as us? Why is this a bad thing and such a difficult thing for us? Is it in our nature to be this eveil? Confucious would object to such an assumption. But why does it hurt us that much? Why Why why?

The golden rule is the fundamental teachings behind equal opportunity - accessing same services as others in order to improve our lives. it is essentioally about being human and seeking to transcend our animal nature. Yet, we cannot but wonder why this is such a problem to others? Someone, kindly enlighten me?

Meanwhile, I and my WISO supporters will do what we can to improve the lives of those few that we can. We will change one life at a time, and that makes us happy. We will pay rent for an abused women to help her get out of a difficult situation. We will pay tuition for an abused girl to help her go to school and be independent of her abuser. We will feed those who find themselves in difficult situations especially due to abuse. We will advocate and pay legal fees for any woman seeking legal representation to change her situation. and yes, we will continue to produce booklets on abuse to educate those who might be in similar situation how to identify, and end the cycle of abuse.

Yes, the poor will always be here, but we can change the situation of a few and that is what I call humanity. Let's all embrace it and if you have not ever done so, the feeling is soo good. It is better that all the money in the world, better than all the fame in the world. That, to me is worth it. Join me, as we claim and enjoy our human nature- that which is caring to all, in spite of our means. Thanks for listening. I would appreciate any feedback you have. My love is with you all. :)

Yell about abuse

I worry that most changes in our society today seem to be sidelining the rights of the girl child.  of course boys have their burden as well. While abuse is common in our society, girl children are more vulnerable because of patriarchal assumptions.

You know there was a time that women were treated as property. They could not go school, they could not work, they could not control births, they could be married to old men - a 9 year old girl would be married to a 70 year old. They could be raped anyhowly and no one would believe them if they reported. This is happening again. Do you know why, women are relaxing. We are forgeting that we have to stay strong ion order for our rights not to be trampled on. We can not let our society revert to the 1030's when women were seen as vesells for reproduction. We can not let those day back  when women had no say in any matter.

We are 52% of the world's population and we have more power that we want to acknoeledge. We have to stop this. I do not suggets fighting anyone, but we have to voice our opinion and let the societuies in which we live know that we cannot let women and girls be abused in the name of culture of religion. We deserve better. our daughters deseve better. Our brothers know better and our fathers know better as well. we should educate them athat we love them so much and that they should extende the same love to us. We have to resist any law or change that marginalizes a woman of any social group.

Without laws to protect our children and to prosecute pedophiles, our children continue to live at risk. This is why, I hope anyone who supports us can make it his her mission to speak against any form of abuse. If we see it, hear about it, smell it, or sense it, we should not take it for granted. We could save our girls and boys from a terrible situation. Talks to anyone you meet. Educate them. You will be surprised how little they know about this issue. take it as your chance to do good to prevent cultural and other forms of abuse.

Work with me. Talk about abuse anytime you get an opportunity. Sing about it, yell about it, rap about it. Let people know that it is wrong and that respect of individual rights is worth it. if you want to own one of our T-shirts, so it speaks for you, let us know at wiso2011@gmail.com. I am passionate about this because I know it takes just one voice to make a change. Imagine if they were two, three, four or more voices? We are yet to accomplish a lot more. Hang in there and you will see.

You want to learn more about abuse,read our booklet on various forms of abuse. Email us at wiso2011@gmail.com to order our beautiful T-shirts. Help spread the word.

Why we Must Fight for Women’s Health

I thought we lived in the 21^st century. Yet, if you have been watching the news, or read newspapers lately, you must have wondered whether our society has reverted to the 13^th century. I say this because, there seems to be a war against women’s health, women’s rights, and a disregard of women’s freedom to make choices, and a disregard of their voices in matters that concern them.  When we think of abuse, we sometimes forget that it can manifest itself in many ways. Abuse can be physical, psychological, and structural. Abuse can be promoted through laws, cultures and religions. This is why I am concerned and feel I must address this issue is my blog.

To begin with, let’s see what is meant by abuse? Abuse refers to the systematic pattern of behaviors that are used to gain and/or maintain power and control over another. Abuse of women is present when tactics are intentionally used to establish and maintain power and to control over the thoughts, beliefs and behavior women. In all forms of abuse the woman loses some if not all dignity, control, safety and personal power. Abused women change their behavior, preferences and/or choices because they fear the consequences or retaliation of their abuser.

If you are a woman you cannot ignore the controversy in our media about women’s health and the rights to choose. The issue of women health rose to a higher level when a threat was made on the health coverage of Planned Parenthood. When Komen cure, a non- profit organization in Dallas Texas that has fought for women’s health specifically breast cancer threatened to defund Planned Parenthood, women around the world were awakened at they power dynamics at play and the blatant abuse of women’s rights. Soon, religious organizations were in the mix with the resistance of some to provide healthcare to women that included contraceptives.

The controversy over Planned Parenthood and contraceptives has significant implications for women’s rights and health. First, this controversy is not only about non-provision of women with healthcare, a basic right; it is also about women’s sexual control, a social trend that has characterized patriarchal societies for a long time. The basic assumption behind patriarchy is that women are incapable of making right decision and that the society should make these decisions for them. Has anyone wondered why provision of contraceptives is bad for women when healthcare continued to cover Viagra for men? Why the double standards?

Religious organizations have always sanctioned patriarchal societies based on the assumption that sexuality is sinful and a necessary evil that committed individuals ought to stay away from unless they are ready to procreate. In other words, sexual behavior that is not for reproduction is wrong, immoral and sinful. These two assumptions have led to the need to control sexual behavior and therefore to deny women freedom to engage in sex. Contraceptives are considered immoral because they give women ability to engage in sexual behaviors that are not intended to procreate. Abortion is perceived as immoral because it is a consequence of sexual behavior not intended for procreation.  Has anyone wondered why God would give men and women sexual desires all year round if at all they are evil and not intended for use? Why would God give us bodies and bodily desires if these are evil? Also, the issue of abortion is multifaceted that to ignore realities associated with it is to live in a utopian world. Bottom line, to deny women their basic rights as human beings to make the rights choices in matters related to sexuality is oppressive and abusive, which to me is not only inhumane, and irreligious, it is also a violation of their basic rights.

There are many health issues that only affect women. Although the control of sexuality is but one dimension of it, most of women’s health issues are related to hormones that make women, women. You have to be a woman to know this that is why men should refrain from speaking for women on any matter that concerns women. The goal of organizations such as Planned Parenthood is to provide information and help that relates to hormonal needs of women such as reproductive health and implications for women general health. For instance, Planned Parenthood provides pelvic exams, pap tests and screening for breast cancer all vital health care needs for women. These tests are used to treat and prevent all forms of sexual infectious and to prevent all forms of cancer thus save lives. Many women have also been treated of infertility issue because of Planned Parenthood. Some cases of infertility are treated by taking contraceptives. You would imagine those who care so much about procreation would see sense in this aspect.

By providing women birth control Planned Parenthood and similar organizations help women to prevent unwanted pregnancies, a necessary step to preventing abortion. Birth controls help women to plan their families. Why do women need to control their birth? There are many reasons that make us want to control our families including economic, social and health reasons. In times of economic difficulty such as these, surely, we cannot expose women to the risk of getting ten children they are unable to take care of. Birth controls therefore make us into responsible parents. If a woman’s health is at risk of pregnancy, birth controls will enable her to live a healthy life without the fear of getting pregnant and risking her life. Birth control methods such as condoms help both men and women to prevent contracting sexually transmitted diseases including deadly ones such as HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis C and others. I should alert my reader that Hepatitis C is on the increase and is killing more people than HIV. In a nut shell, birth control like any other form of medication helps us to be responsible, and healthy. To deny anyone this opportunity is abusive and a violation of the rights of individuals involved.

Organizations like Planned Parenthood recognize the fact that in real life, there are accidents, disabilities and other forms of obstacles for the realization of a healthy lifestyle. It is for this reason that they offer information of various options to navigate sexual related issues and offer a safe and legal way to end unwanted or a dangerous pregnancy. There are many reasons why women turn to abortion. Statistics indicate that women turn to abortion because of rape, incest, fetal health, maternal health, the need to pursue education, joblessness, or other economic or social reasons.[1] Because some of these reasons are very real for some women’s survival, they are crucial for them. In other words, some women’s lives are dependent on abortion. It is for this reason that they will seek abortions whether legal or illegal. To provide these women with a safe environment to have this procedure is not only morally responsible, it is humane and realistic. Abortion is necessary for some women to save their life. To deny them a chance at life is not only brutal, and abuse, it is a violation of their basic human rights. Understandably, women should be encouraged to give unwanted children up for adoption. However, there are cases where this is not a choice.

Although every human wants to feel in control, accidents do happen in every aspect of life including in relationships. To deny women the rights to make important decisions about their life is not only immoral, it is abusive and a violation of their rights. After all, the good book of Hezekiah reminds us that "God helps those who help themselves!"- Hezekiah 6:1, 3:2. 

It is important that the rights of women are protected. It is important that women are recognized as adults who can make their own decisions. It is important that social institutions such as governments and religious institutions stop imposing their will on women. God, as a loving God loves women just as he loves men and understands women just as he understands men. He wants both too live healthy and full lives. Such a life must endow upon them dignity because they are indeed made in the image of God with all their flaws and inabilities. A loving God will love you no matter what.

Religious organizations would come to the aid of women in times of need; this is what Jesus would have done. He embraced a woman who was suffering with the flow of blood for 12 years at a time when her society would have condemned her as sinful- Luke 8:43-48 43.  Jesus recognized that women have special needs and these needs are as important as any other need. Muhammad also cared for women as creature of God. He condemned his community that killed girl children because of fear that they would engage in sexual behavior that would dishonor their family. Prophet Muhammad was against what continues to be done to women in the form of honor killings. In sura 81:1-14.  A whole chapter in the Qur’an is dedicated to the need of women. As women, we should continue to demand respect and our rights because that is what God would have us do for ourselves.  Lets shun all the Pharisee and the holier than thou because God has condemned them in the history of the world.

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[1] Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_do_people_get_abortions#ixzz1nA2xBDj6

Human Trafficking is Modern Slavery

Whenever the topic of slavery comes up in any discussion, most people tend to dismiss it as if it is no longer an issue in modern society. Slavery is the most outrageous crimes against humanity. Some of us think it can never happen in a “normal” society as ours. If you are one of these people, I am sorry because I have bad news for you. Slavery is alive and thriving in our world today. It is happening everywhere including our back yard. Yes, those neighbors of ours who look innocent are probably engaging in acts of slavery. Those of you who engage in prostitution are probably supporting slavery. And those of you who seek cheap labor are probably perpetuating modern slavery.

Modern slavery is known as human trafficking. According to the Trafficking Victims Protection Act, human trafficking occurs if a person is induced to perform labor or a commercial sex act through force, fraud, or coercion. It is estimated that 2.5 million people are in forced labor including sexual exploitation as a result of trafficking. Of these 2.5 million, 1.4 million(56%) are in Asia and the Pacific. 250,000 (10%) are in Latin America and the Caribbean. 230,000 (9.2%) are in the Middle East and Northern Africa. 130,000( 5.2%) are in sub-Saharan countries of Africa. 270,000( 10.8% ) are in industrialized countries and 200,000( 8%) are in countries in transition.[1] The majority of human trafficking victims are between age 18-24years. An estimated 1.2 million children are trafficked each year. 95% of the victims experience physical and sexual violence during trafficking. 43% are used for forced commercial sexual exploitation and 56% of them are women and girls.[2]

It is estimated that human trafficking profits are as high as US$31.6 billion. 49% of the profit- US$15.5 billion is generated in industrialized economies. 30.6% = US$ 9.7 billion is generated in Asia and the Pacific. 4.1%=US$ 1.3 billion is generated in Latin America and the Caribbean. 5% = 1.6 billion is generated in sub-Sahara Africa and 4.7%=US$ 1.5 billion is generated in the Middle East and North Africa. Most of the traffickers are men (52%) with women comprising about 42%. While in 54% of the cases the recruiter was a stranger to the victim, 46% of the time the recruiter is known to the victim.  It is also estimated that 50-75,000 victims are trafficked into America for sexual exploitation. This number does not include the 100,000 – 300,000 American children who are forced into prostitution in the United States. Because human trafficking is a profit making billions industry, it is very difficult to control, or even prosecute traffickers. In 2006 for instance, while only 5,808 cases of human trafficking were prosecuted, only 3,160 convictions were made  in the world.   

In spite of these seeming obstacles, we can all help stop human trafficking. The power is in the people. It has always been. It is only a challenge to make us all recognize how much power we have to change our society. The challenge is whether and how to identify modern slavery where it exists and to do something about it. We can all stop human trafficking if we learn how to look for and identify a victim of human trafficking. Once you identify a suspicious behavior, all you need to do is call the HHS trafficking hotline at 1-888- 3737-888 to and file an anonymous report. Recruiters known as pimps are known to hang around schools, libraries and places where children can be found.  You can also help stop human trafficking by spreading the news about human trafficking in our modern societies. We can also stop buying cheap labor products by demanding fair trade certified products. When you go to Starbucks for coffee for instance, demand fair trade certified coffee. This is one way to raise awareness and to voice concern.

Many a times, children who are reported as missing end up in human trafficking. They are kidnapped and trafficked for labor and sexual exploitation. In the United States, for instance, it is reported that 3,000 children go missing every day with only a few cases appearing in the news. Have you ever wondered what happens to them? If we teach our friends and family about the reality of human trafficking, we can save many from pimps and other human traffickers.  We need to strategize more to protect our children from modern slavery.

As we observe the National Slavery and Human Trafficking prevention month, - January – we need to think deeply about this human atrocity and especially how we can help to end it. Let us remember that the United States senate resolution of June 22, 2007 that marked January 11th the day of awareness and vigilance for the countless victims of Human Trafficking across the globe is just the first step to ending human trafficking. As President Obama said in his proclamation speech, we stand with all those who are held in compelled service; we recognize the people, organizations, and government entities that are working to combat human trafficking; and we recommit to bring an end to this inexcusable human rights abuse.”[3] Donations to shelters to help support those who are rescued from human trafficking go a long way to support those who want to escape this circle of abuse. If you feel called to act in donation form, you can send your donations to WISO Organizations. Our address is 229 Orton Drive, Greenville NC 27858. All donations are passed on to shelters to help rescue victims of human trafficking so they can transition to normal life.

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[1] International Labor Organization, Forced Labor Statistics Factsheet, www.unglobalcompact.org, (2007).

[2] UN Gift Global Initiative to fight Human trafficking, www.unglobalcompact.org, 2012

[3] White House, “Presidential Proclamation -- National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Month, 2012” www.whitehouse.gov.

Rape is Rape

I thought I should share this with my readers. it is a win for abused women. See below.

We did it! FBI Director Robert Mueller gave final approval to update the archaic definition of rape.

We did it thanks to you and the more than 160,000 emails we sent requesting a change in the way the FBI Uniform Crime Report defines rape.
With a modern, broader definition, FBI  statistics will finally show the true breadth of this violence that affects so many women's lives. Women's groups will work to ensure that this more accurate and complete data will lead to increased resources to combat and reduce the incidence of rape.

The old definition, adopted over 80 years ago, had been extensively criticized for leading to widespread underreporting of rape. Defined as "the carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will," it excluded rapes involving forced anal sex and/or oral sex, rape with an object (even if serious injuries resulted) and rapes of men, and was interpreted by many police jurisdictions to exclude rapes where the victim was incapacitated by drugs or alcohol, or otherwise unable to give consent. The old rape definition excluded many rapes against women and all against men.

The new definition, as it appears on the FBI website, is: "Penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim."
This is a major policy change and will dramatically impact the way rape is tracked and reported nationwide. Thank you for your continued support throughout this campaign. Please take a minute to thank Director Mueller and the FBI, who finally changed the archaic definition of rape. Together, we are helping to make sure that all rapes will be counted.
For women's lives,

Eleanor Smeal President Feminist Majority Foundation